Your emotional baggage is your reality. It is the sum of all the emotions that you have accumulated throughout the years and with which you are still not at peace. When you are not at peace with your emotional baggage, you cannot be at peace with yourself. When this is the case, do you believe that you are able to develop and nurture a healthy relation with your own self and a harmonious relationship with someone else? The deliberate choice to face all your fears opens the door to the creation of a different energy between you and your past. However it takes a lot of courage to embark on such an adventure, where so many unknown factors can emerge at any time, making your experience so much more uncomfortable than initially anticipated. Fortunately, there is a major upside to the spiritual journey. It is life-changing, and for the very best.
::: What prevents you from confronting your emotional baggage?
What makes it so difficult to face your own demons? Is it shame, resentment, anger, fear, or the fact that you are not ready to do such an introspective work just yet? There is no good or bad reason, and you do not even have to come to terms with your emotional baggage. What is emotionally reprehensible is to use it as a justification for being nasty, mean, vicious, and slippery with others. How many times have you reverted back to what you normally refuse to see to push a toxic agenda? How much of this emotional baggage has been utilized to develop and then solidify series of unspoken expectations that others were totally unable to meet? How often did you use your own demons as material for emotional blackmail, so you could get your way while cornering others and discarding their feelings? It is okay not to be ready to confront the utmost disagreeable. It stops being acceptable when you use what you resent the most about yourself against others and, ultimately, your own self.
Shame is a very subjective concept. What is shameful to you is business as usual for someone else. Shame indicates that there is something somewhere in your universe that clashes with you intrinsic values. Or is it really about your values? The unwillingness to identify whether your own set of values has been corrupted by your surroundings is a great handicap, when you seek clarity and resolution with self. Everything in life can be changed, which naturally includes any choices that you have made until now. What decision have you taken and about which you are still feeling a strong sentiment of shame today? What triggers the shame? Does it have anything to do with you? Most feelings are reflections of your upbringings. They were imposed on you, so you would fit-in and relate to those who surround you. To that effect, would you like to take a blunt look at those beliefs that you have embraced and that are still paralyzing you and your life? And who does it serve?
::: Is fear discouraging you from moving on with your life?
The fear to hurt, sadden, or disappoint others is your biggest limitation. The fear to make someone unhappy because of a choice that you utterly need to make forces you to function from a position of no-choice. And, little by little, no-choice kills your soul. No-choice gives you no other option but to settle, endure, and deteriorate spiritually and intellectually. This is the worst service that you can render someone. This is the worst decision that you can take for yourself. To negate what you know and consequently maintain the status quo affect negatively all those individuals who gravitate around you and who love you. However those individuals require a lot of awareness and emotional strength to recognize it, not judge it, and digest it. The likely absence of emotional strength is what discourages so many men and women from acknowledging what life is requiring from them at this very minute and from sharing what their life-changing epiphanies are.
The fear of the unknown is a myth that this society heavily promotes. Small changes or adjustments are often times resented because their ramifications are unknown. Once or maybe twice during a lifetime, a drastic change is needed, so a brand new energy can emerge. And this energy is absolutely crucial to create a brand new momentum, instead of continuing to entrap all concerned parties inside this uncontrollable bullet train that is going to crash at any moment. It is true that it is never too late to change. However the sooner offers better predispositions for everybody’s future. Do you know of what the future will be made? Absolutely not! However when you know deep inside that time has come, there should not be any hesitations. Now, how do you know that the time has come to shift? Fear is nowhere to be found in your universe. You are fearless, because you know that this is the right decision. You know that everybody is going to benefit from it, whether they want to see it. If they do not, never stop.
Life is way too short to surrender. In the meantime, kindness forces you to care about how your decisions affect those you love dearly. Kindness starts with self. If you are unkind to yourself, you cannot be kind to anyone else. To acknowledge and pro-actively act on what you consciously know is best for you and those you love are acts of kindness. This is not selfishness. This is not recklessness. This is a beautiful demonstration of kindness. The emotional impact that your choices have on your loved ones are undeniable. But as unpleasant or even excruciating as the consequences are at first, they ultimately create a very positive dynamic for everybody. It just takes the immense courage to keep the latter in mind at all times, so going back and settling are not possibilities.
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