American viewers, you are in luck, because a new season of The Bachelorette just started. If there is one show on television where the partakers’ personal insecurities reach their paroxysm in a record time and where desperation reigns supreme, this is it. Every Monday, from the comfort of your living room, you get to mix this infect salad composed of all the key-ingredients that make lousy and mediocre relationships what they are in this society today. Unless of course you believe that nothing can top the Bachelorette or her male counterpart, the Bachelor. There are many folks out there who religiously watch this show, so they are able to establish and then embrace a list of what they think are pivotal dating and relational skills to possess. In other words, they make sure to duplicate the same level of horrendousness that pertains to those relations they see being formed on their television screen. They desperately attempt to replicate them with others, but this time in a context that is certainly much less glamorous than a dinner date on a desert island in the middle of the Pacific Ocean with champagne, torches in the sand, and other production-budgeted artifacts. The divide between fantasy and reality can be emotionally violent, and the inability to dissociate both can leave irreversible emotional scars.
::: Is The Bachelorette the archetype of this society’s mediocrity?
Do you really know what it means to value yourself? Is it actually something that you can measure? Is it based on what you own and that can be assessed monetarily like your house, your stock options, or what you have in your bank accounts? How about using the sum of your skills, talents, and abilities to define how valuable you intrinsically are? Does the latter sound outrageous or is it way too difficult to identify? Ultimately, whether you value yourself is not complicated to determine. There are life experiences that speak for themselves. For example, have you ever shut up at the request of your partner, because he or she was not interested in hearing your opinion on a topic that was nonetheless very much relevant to the life of your relationship? Have you ever had a great idea, which you knew could definitely contribute to change the way this world is functioning today, and in the end chose to discount it, or give it away, or simply abandon it from the fear of failing? When you do not value yourself, you stand in line and hope to receive a rose.
The way this society functions is a negation of anyone’s desire for personal emancipation, whether it is intellectual, emotional, physical, or sexual. Its master plan is to drag you down to the level of the common denominator. But what is the common denominator? Just turn on your television and see for yourself. Observe how American men are being portrayed on this season of The Bachelorette. This insatiable need for instant validation and this crying lack of being seen, loved, and accepted turn them into obnoxiously superficial, artificial, mean, and vicious individuals. They embody what the common denominator is. What about the masses who relentlessly watch what is socially inaccessible to them? Wouldn’t it be so much more productive to empower them to seek out beyond their own limitations? Thus more people would be able to find value to their lives and their own selves, and ultimately be happier and more fulfilled. Interestingly enough, this is not an option. They must be kept contained inside their pathetic lives at all costs and be thrown a bone from time to time. The Bachelorette is the bone. Let’s make them dream of inapproachable horizons while engineering drama. Because if there is something to which they can easily relate, it is drama since their lives are unrewarding and fueled with all forms of tragedies. As much as this all may sound totally unattractive to you, are you sure that you are not content with mediocrity in a few areas of your life? Routine is mediocrity and routine often times feels pretty comfortable.
::: Isn’t mediocrity comfortable after all?
The promotion of mediocrity through the mass productions of uniformed ideas and thoughts has been the center-piece of all policies that have ruled all societies since the beginning of times. Why is it that crucial to systematically elevate mediocrity instead of celebrating uniqueness, elegance, and distinction? To insufflate mediocrity is the best way to control people, to put them asleep, and to drug and numb them to better manipulate them. And who cares of what is left of them once they have surrendered their entire selves, anyway? Do you relate to this energy? Have you ever suppressed what you are in any of your relationships? And how did it feel? Did you have the impression to still exist, or were you nowhere to be found in the equation of your life? To say yes when you so wanted to say no clearly indicates a choice to step into the mediocre world that characterizes most people’s lives, where resentment and rancor are omnipresent. To divorce yourself each time you are given the possibility to make a choice becomes comfortable, simply because it grows into a habit. And to most, habits and patterns are comfortable because they are predictable.
Are you ready to identify all those elements of predictability by which you solemnly swear and consequently live your life? Unless you think that routine is a perfect fit. Everything is a choice, including the one to live an existence that is deprived of all forms of mystery, curiosity, and excitement. Now one major advantage of living a dull existence is that you are certainly not the only one. So you will always find people to whom you can relate and with whom you can share your stories about how dreadful life is. You can never find yourself isolated. Is it really what you desire? Instead, would you be willing to take the risk of isolating yourself, simply because you need to choose a perspective that is unknown to most? Are you ready to generate exception, uniqueness, and greatness? It may not be comfortable at first, since your ambitions are likely to scare people away from you, including loved ones. But in the end, who cares? There is no one who should have the power to limit you, solely because he or she feels utterly miserable about himself or herself. Be ensured that it feels great to get rid of toxic people.
Desperation is a choice. This world is full of desperate men and women who do not want to change a thing to their lives, and whose main goal is to trap you inside this black hole that defines their existence. Mediocrity is a by-product of desperation, and it is a very dark place. To embrace mediocrity signifies that you must abandon everything about you that shines, so you can fit inside the world of the common denominator. To embrace what you are signifies that you keep on shining brighter and brighter, regardless of what others think.